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Abuse


As more childhood abuse cases are appearing within the media, the damaging effects of abuse are being highlighted. These resultant effects are devastating and are often carried into adult life, resulting in an array of problems and issues which can leave a person feeling damaged, or worse still, destroyed from their experiences.


Many people who were abused in childhood believe that they are to blame and that the abuse was their fault. But this is never the case - a child cannot consent to abuse. Abuse is never the child's fault and is never an accident. A child cannot consent to abuse.


In countless circumstances children were too young to fully understand or articulate what was happening to them. For some they spoke out at the time but weren't believed and for others they were too embarrassed to tell anyone or did not know who to turn to.


Abuse takes many forms, sexual, physical, emotional and neglectful/poor parenting.


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Emotional, psychological and mental abuse


Many people who were abused in childhood believe that they are to blame and that the abuse was their fault. But this is never the case - a child cannot consent to abuse. Abuse is never the child's fault and is never an accident. A child cannot consent to abuse.


In countless circumstances children were too young to fully understand or articulate what was happening to them. For some they spoke out at the time but weren't believed and for others they were too embarrassed to tell anyone or did not know who to turn to.


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Physical Abuse


Physical abuse can be defined as any intentional act causing injury or trauma to another person by way of bodily contact. Witnessing physical abuse also constitutes physical and emotional abuse.

While not strictly physical, there are other interpretations of physical abuse;


  • Name-calling and put-downs; overt anger; threats; attempts to intimidate by the abuser
  • Restricting the victim's movements (preventing them from attending work or school, controlling what they do or say)
  • Restricting the victim's access to money
  • Overt jealousy or possessiveness over the victim
  • The abuser harming other people or animals in the victim's life
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Sexual Abuse


Sexual abuse is when someone is forced, pressurised or tricked into taking part in any kind of sexual activity with another person. Whatever form of coercion is used, be it physical, financial or emotional, any sexual act which is not based on mutual consent constitutes sexual abuse.


Child Sexual Abuse can be defined as any sexual act with a child performed by an adult or an older child.


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Ineffective Parenting


There are very few parents that rub their hands with glee when a child is born and say "let's see what we can do to make this child's life a misery"


It is more, that some adults become parents themselves without resolving their own personal issues, perhaps they didn't know how to, or they simply didn't want to. When this happens, it can lead to parents being less than ideal with their parenting skills which can in turn lead to issues in a person's adult life.


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What therapy do I offer for abuse ?


I am a PICT (Parks Inner Child Therapy) practitioner.


Parks Inner Child Therapy (PICT) is a powerful and versatile visualisation-based therapy model that aids rapid and positive change.


PICT was originally created to specifically help people recover from the trauma and damage of sexual, physical and emotional abuse during childhood (such harm may have been caused deliberately, caused by neglect, or by inadequate parenting which was not intentional)


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The Effects of Abuse


Many people believe that sexual and physical abuse experiences do the most damage to children - it is true that damage is done and that the experiences are generally traumatic for children. However, emotional abuse (poor parenting also qualifies in this category) is the real ‘killer’, because it subtly undermines a child’s true identity. The misinformation that is learned from poor parenting and the damaging, derogatory comments of emotional abuse create a warped understanding (belief system) about self, others and the world.


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Childhood Abuse Symptoms


There is no specific ‘personality type’ attached to the effect of childhood abuse. Some people become introverted, others are loud and brash; some are sexually inhibited, others are promiscuous; some are overly neat, others are untidy; some are good at hiding their problems, others are obviously experiencing difficulties. However, there is a list of symptoms that are common to people who have experienced childhood abuse. People in general can have a few of these symptoms and it doesn’t mean they have been abused, but those individuals who have been abused will have several to many symptoms.


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